Sunday, October 24, 2010

How I learned to stop worrying and love the 'F' bomb

Especially in light of my previous post about the abortion debate, I like to think I'm fairly sympathetic to the feminist cause. Unjust inequality of any form riles me up, and I'll jump to the defense of any disadvantaged group, at any time. So I was surprised when I found myself being (mildly) rebuked by a feminist friend of mine. Specifically, she took issue with a video I linked to on Facebook:



The video shows a lot of gays and gay allies saying "Fuck off!" to opponents of same-sex marriage. There are also two children in the video (about 11 years old, I guess) who drop the 'F' bomb in defense of their gay parents.

My friend left this comment:
While I want to like this because I agree with the sentiment 100%, the feminist in me cringes with the casual use of the word "fuck" (especially by children! oh my). "Fuck" implies getting "fucked" or "fucking" someone, which implies penetration (for better or for worse) and, beyond that, penetration with little respect for the person getting "fucked" (i.e.--my boss fucked me over). If you don't agree with me, think of any synonym for "fucked" (screwed, pounded, whatever)--it all goes back to penetration which goes back to penises used as weapons, not for the betterment of society ;).
Really, I have no idea what to think about that. I like the word 'fuck'. It's versatile, emphatic, and thoroughly enjoyable to say. It can express a wide range of emotions and function as just about any part of speech. Actually, I think there has been no better addition to the English language since 'doucheknuckle'*. This video sums up my feelings on the word fairly well:



But I'm going to open this up to readers. Is 'fuck' anti-feminist? Anti-woman? Okay in some circumstances? Appropriate for the video above? Discuss!

*Not yet recognized by most dictionaries.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Two Concessions to the Right-Wing Fringe

Those of you who know me well can attest to the fact that I despise anti-abortion wingnuts. My own state of Colorado currently has a pro-life amendment on the ballot that would apply the term "person" to every sperm and egg that happen to bump into each other. If the amendment passes, a fertilized egg will have the same legal rights as your Uncle Bob, and a lot more than your pet dog Jolly.

It would be funny, except a depressing 27% of Colorado citizens voted in favor of the amendment the last time it was on the ballot. It honestly frightens me to think that almost 1 in 3 people I meet on the streets think this is a good idea.

So why do I care about this so much? Partly because it's wrong and stupid, but mostly because I can't stand bullies. We've all heard the horror stories about the prostitutes and rich women who use abortion as a form of birth control, but even if these are true (and I doubt that most of them are), they do not represent the majority of women who consider abortions. Many women entering abortion clinics are undereducated (thanks, abstinence-only sex education!), or poor, or young, or victims of rape. Some were just careless, but I doubt they're any less frightened about the prospect of becoming mothers by accident. By and large, women considering abortions are at one of the most vulnerable and difficult times of their lives. And then you have the lousy right-wing fuckheads telling them they're murderers. My blood fucking boils at the thought.*

But I have to make two concessions to these retards campaigners. With the November election drawing closer, there are many arguments flying around (from both sides) that simply don't make sense. Here are two from the pro-choice side that I feel obligated to put down.

1. Men should not vote or campaign for a law that will only affect women.

I admit, pro-life men piss me off. Unlike pro-choice women, they never even have to consider what they would do in the event of an unwanted pregnancy. (You can argue that they're affected if their spouse gets pregnant unexpectedly, but I'm talking about having a fucking basketball-sized tumor swimming around in their bellies.) But you must remember why pro-life people are opposed to abortion. They honestly believe, rationally or not, that every tiny fetus is a human being and that doing anything to the fetus is actually murder. Stupid as that is, it is a matter of human rights to them. You can't ban men from the discussion simply because they can't get pregnant. Also, by that logic, men shouldn't vote in favor of pro-choice laws, either. I shouldn't be writing this blog post now. Etc.

Anyways, it's hardly less aggravating that pro-life women are trying to force this law down the throats of other women.

2. It is a woman's choice to abort or not abort.

Okay, wait. I have to add a LARGE disclaimer to this one, because it's practically the pro-choice maxim. Let me say right away that I totally agree with this statement. Read the first part of my post if you have any doubts whatsoever. But I have to point out that this statement does not answer the pro-life claim that abortion is murder. Again, for those on the pro-life side, abortion is a matter of human rights.

Their argument is as follows:

P1. Killing an innocent person is murder.
P2. A fetus is an innocent person.
__________
Therefore, killing a fetus is murder.

If you just respond to this argument by claiming that abortion is a woman's choice, then your argument fails. If a fetus is an innocent person, then killing that fetus is indeed murder. And no one has the right to choose to murder someone else.

So in order to adequately respond to this argument, you have to show that the second premise is false. You can bring in scientific studies that show when a fetus begins to feel pain or becomes conscious. You can argue about what features a human being must have in order to deserve moral consideration. You can attack the idea that there is anything like a 'soul' that every human receives at conception. But you can't just say that abortion is a woman's choice. That is a conclusion, not an argument.

I conclude that abortion is a woman's choice because a fetus is not a person for reasons X, Y, and Z. And that's what I'll argue with any pro-life proponent.

So that's about as far as I'll ever get to defending a pro-life position. Incidentally, if I know you and you vote Yes on Amendment 62, please don't think we'll ever be on good terms. You and everyone else without the goddamn decency to stop and think rationally for a moment deserve every bit of ridicule and contempt I can muster the effort to heap upon you. Go to hell.

*Incidentally, this is probably also a large part of the reason why I'm so concerned about animal rights. Animals are in an even more precarious position because they can't defend themselves at all. Unlike women, every single one of their interests depends on a small handful of humans who can be bothered to consult their consciences.